Theory #2:

Expectations before and exceptions after

I’m guilty of this and I know I’m not the only one. We’ve all set expectations of how we want every relationship we’re in to be. What the deal breakers would be (most of us would say cheating), what we want from the other person, etc. But then when the s/o does one of the things we've told ourselves we’d break up with them for, which one of us would really leave everything we've put time and energy into?

That’s when the exceptions come in. I don’t like to admit it, but I’ve made plenty of exceptions in the past, with past relationships and even with the person I’m with now. It’s not because I am weak willed, it’s because somehow faith always keeps me going. Faith, that if I give this exception, this one time, things will be better and he wouldn't break another expectation.

But with every expectation does come with disappointments.